It's not going to be easy but it is going to lead to freedom! Christians who keep silent about their sexual concerns, temptations, and desires remain in bondage to them. But since these are private matters, care should be taken with whom one becomes vulnerable.

First, none of us should be wholly identified by our sexual desires. To do so reduces us to behaviors rather than a person. So I suggest you reveal your concerns in terms of it being just one aspect of who you are.

Second, we all need accountability. Not from people who will beat us up, but from people who will stand beside us with their own vulnerabilities in view. Choose these people carefully!

Third, and most importantly, I suggest you emphasize that you didn't choose your sexual desires, but you are choosing to walk with those desires in obedience to God and by God's grace. Since this involves being joyfully celibate, avoid people or groups who encourage you to engage or "explore" your sexual proclivities with others. That leads to bondage - not freedom!

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